Everyone knows that it is important to make sure friends stay friends. But when someone enters a relationship, the environment becomes a bit different.
I have many friends who are in a relationship. I feel like my friendship with them is ‘suspended’, so as to give them space to pursue and grow their relationship. I’d limit the time I see them to long time intervals, 6 months or a year for example.
Except one dear friend of mine, GZ…
If I am still having those types of dreams, I haven’t grown up yet, have I?
*tumbleweed*
Sorry folks, lots of ideas, so little time.
I’ll now turn the discussion towards ‘friends doing unexpected things’. Stand by.
Commenting on a Facebook post is now an impossible task. I’m always afraid that the reply will be something along the lines of, “Piss off HBO!” It sounds so convincing when said out loud.
Self-confidence is now at an all time low.
Something that I have been interested in recently is getting my mind to pretend to be in a confronting situation, sort of like a role play. Maybe that is where BDSM tendencies originate, HBO! Why do you like being choked? I digress.
There needs to be a stimulus of some sort to illustrate the scenario. And from there, the wonderful mind feeds off that and attempts to replicate the bodily reactions to that scene.
It’s EXACTLY what happens to the mind when one is plugged into the Matrix! Okay, science fiction reference. Meh.
The latest situation I have been trying to replicate is one where your mind refuses to accept reality and reverts to presenting you with a dreamed reality. This scene in the first episode of series 7 of Doctor Who illustrates this perfectly.
Context: The Doctor has reached the room Oswin is at in the Dalek Asylum. He has just discovered that Oswin is not who he thought she was.
Doctor: Does it look real to you?
Oswin: Does what look real?
D: Where you are right now. Does it seem real?
O: It is real.
D: It’s a dream, Oswin. You dreamed it for yourself because the truth was too terrible.
O: Where am I?
The mind is forced to create a utopia in order to survive!
So why did I mention BDSM? It’s an activity that promotes safe roleplaying (amongst other things) AND where a situation exists (d/s, edgeplay, mindfucks) such that when it is played out, I can try and dream a utopia for myself!
It’s all about trying to see what the mind is really capable of.
I have recently discovered the wonderful highs one gets from being choked. The feeling of someone else’s (or my own) hands on my neck and losing control ever so briefly, is pure bliss.
Strangely, it was the only way I could get to sleep last night.
Recently, I have been reading a lot from the relationships section of reddit (r/relationships). There’s something satisfying about reading about people’s questions and problems!
Today, one story took my interest.
My [24F] boyfriend [24M] is upset because he thinks that my guy friend [25M] likes me. How do I assure boyfriend that he has nothing to worry about even though he is kind of right?
byu/wanderingbee3432 inrelationships
And its update:
[Update] My [24F] boyfriend [24M] is upset because he thinks that my guy friend [25M] likes me. How do I assure boyfriend that he has nothing to worry about even though he is kind of right?
byu/wanderingbee3432 inrelationships
In a nutshell, it’s about a guy friend who’s a bit too close to a girl who has a boyfriend.
It dawned on me, this guy friend is a) looking for some company and b) is desperate for a girlfriend.
AND THEN I REALISED that this is what I am turning into! A guy, while desperate for a relationship, who fucks up in a massive way that will have untold consequences.
I’ve convinced myself that the only way to stop becoming this type of guy is to stop wanting a relationship, and be happy about being independent, but not necessarily alone. I’m creepy enough that I know I will fuck up anything resembling a relationship.
But at the end of the day the sad and undeniable truth is that I am turning into a monster. Change must occur before it’s too late.
As one commenter said “Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.” What utter bullshit. Men and women can be friends given a generous amount of time and intelligent conversation.
More tasty stories from r/relationships later.
Whenever I catch up with an old friend, there are parts of our conversation that I remember for a long time. It could be about anything, but this occasion, it’s about cars.
NC and I are friends from a little while back. She had just returned from an overseas trip, with many stories about life, boys and their toys.
We continue to chat. One story about trashing quad bikes, another about an insurance job on a car, and finally about twenty-somethings with their expensive cars. By this time, both of us are sick of these yuppie types splashing about with too much money.
I bring the conversation down to earth with this line: “And yet, here we are driving around in our Subarus, keeping out of trouble”. It’s a great line isn’t it?
I guess what I’m trying to say here is that it never hurts to have a little humility. And that good, old-fashioned, face-to-face conversations have long-lasting effects.
And that I have always admired NC for who she is. Maybe if you’re lucky, I might tell you more about why I admire her, and why I’ll never be hers.