• During the last week of the summer holidays, two friends and I went out to dinner to catch up. We had not seen each other for six months because, well, we never crossed paths during that time.

    These two friends had become a couple in that time. I’m happy for them (Who wouldn’t be?!)

    As the night progressed, a comment about ‘the third wheel’ was mentioned. I would be mortified, until he said next, “It’s all right. We both wanted to see you!” Phew, confirmation that I wasn’t out of place.

    A few weeks later, I went out to dinner with another friend as promised some time ago. She brought her boyfriend along. Dinner went well. As I’m recalling the story some time later, someone mentioned ‘the third wheel’ again!

    Now I’m mortified.

    Maybe it’s time to rethink about how I go about my ‘social’. More and more of my friends are getting into relationships! Maybe I’m stubborn in thinking that friends that are couples should be left alone. Maybe I need to change my thinking here…

    A few days ago, I did read a tacky article about what one should do when all their friends become couples. Not very insightful as expected.

    I shall continue to be confused, and will return to my shell.

  • Sorry folks, I have to write down what I want to write about soon.

    Third wheel
    Stalkers
    Smart people.

  • It’s funny how being extremely busy at uni can supress those ‘down’ feelings. This has been the case for the past few weeks.

    But don’t worry. I’ll be talking about the ‘third wheel’ soon.

  • It amazes me how much ‘alone time’ I already have. The fact that I think I need even more ‘alone time’ amazes me even more.

  • It’s become a habit of mine to nickname certain characters that I see often in lecture halls. Nerd, Asian, Mr. Curly Questions. The last one is a favourite of mine. Today I’ve added another, ‘RuneScape kid’.

    Also works for groups of people, especially if they sit together in the same place, every time.

    How fun.

  • So, people who raise awareness for a cause are a daily sight at uni. And now I wonder, what would happen if you told them outright that your view is the polar opposite of theirs?

    Allow me to demonstrate.

    Them: “Stop staff cuts? Protest to stop staff cuts?”
    You: “I support the staff cuts.”

    Now, the reaction would be different amongst different people. But wouldn’t it be one hell of a internal victory if you got a reaction, where they are locked into enthusiastically stating their case from the beginning. Showing so much enthusiasm, it’s comical. Then just walk away.

  • There are some friendships that I value highly. Except, in these cases, I feel I have very little in common with the other person.

    Allow me to elaborate. Both of us have a different background, meet in the same place, and have different ideas of ‘social’. Yet somehow, when we do something together e.g. go out for dinner or to an event, I feel that the differences disappear. And come the next day, we have gone our different ways, and the differences are highly apparent.

    A way to know if this happens is if others ask of you, “How can these two be friends? They’re so different!”

    Social interactions are so fluid; I seem to be attracted to people who are fundamentally different to me, yet I shy away from those who I can see elements of myself in.

  • A return to a why I set up this blog. To bitch about people anonymously.

    JN is a friend of mine; I’ve known him for a little while. We go to the same university. He does an arts degree.

    There is nothing wrong with an arts degree. There are people who have got one, and are very successful. What there is a problem with (and a personal pet hate as well) is how he boasts about having so much free time.

    Quite often he will say on his Facebook page things like, “I’ve got 4 days off, how wonderful” or “I have 4 days off and I can’t get a job”, and similar stuff like that.

    You know, I appreciate that you are trying to fill your time up with things that interest you, but you don’t need to tell the world (especially uni students) about your happy life. People who study other degrees (like medicine, commerce, law and engineering) already have a large workload and don’t need to hear you gloat about your free time! Some of us spend 5 days at uni, I’d like to see you do the same.

  • I’ll give you my current view about relationships later. But I remember a conversation I had with someone very briefly about a radical idea, that I want to expand on.

    At some point I wanted to ‘try out’ a relationship with someone. Not to ‘learn’ how to go about it so to speak, but for pure hedonism; self indulgence. I’d do this preferably with someone who was interested in the same thing, and who had never been in a relationship before, or someone who was in a relationship recently.

    Going on the line of hedonism, we’d do the usual stuff (kiss, make out, do things together) with a little bit more vigour. And here’s the interesting bit, it’ll be all over in a short while. It’ll (hopefully) be forgotten in a while, a non event. There would be nothing to feel bad about, consent is mutual. It kind of reminds me of something I read a while back about being able to buy a kidnapping experience. Being able to feel the ‘thrill’ of what it is like to be kidnapped without any risk or harm.

    I feel like I’m messing with nature’s rhythm a bit, but what harm can a little fun do?

  • Here I will put up session times of films that I want to see. If you’d like to come along, feel free to do so.

    Sydney
    18 Years Old and Rising: Sunday 18 March 6:15pm Palace Norton St
    Elles: Friday 23 March 6:30pm Chauvel Cinema
    Nothing to Declare: Saturday 24 March 8:45pm Palace Norton St

    I’ll update this if there are any changes. Let me know in the comments if you want to see something!